How often do we think about how things might go wrong? How often do we play the images over and over in our minds of everything unravelling, falling apart and not going to plan. We sit and over think about what’s the worst that could happen, negatively escalate the situation without fact or reason, and then we can’t understand why everything went wrong!
What do you think might happen if you thought about what could go right? If instead, you rehearsed everything in your mind going well, how successful you could be. Do you think the outcome might be different?
Why not give it a try, what’s the best that can happen?! Or comment below, I’d love to hear your thoughts!
Sitting down to try and put together a website within the enigma that is cyber space, whilst looking longingly out of the window at the beautiful Autumn day that was happening outside, I found that I couldn’t bare it any longer and I dragged our newly purchased Costco bistro set out of the garage and set it up directly in front of the sun, even if the only place I had to put was the driveway! I might have endured questionable looks from the neighbours, but I was so grateful for some fresh air and the warmth of the sun on my face that I felt much more enthusiastic about battling with cyber space!
This got me wondering, how often do we make compromises to ourselves to make tasks a little more bearable, to help feed our enthusiasm or are we more likely to tell ourselves that we shouldn’t do something, we mustn’t, we can’t, we should carry on regardless as to how we feel, as that what ‘ought to be done’. Well what if it wasn’t, I mean, there is no rule book, there is no spoon! Why can’t you compromise with yourself, or give yourself a treat or reward? In fact, why wouldn’t you? You would treat a child, a pet or a partner, why wouldn’t you reward yourself? You can’t always change the tasks that need to be done or avoid battles you might have to face but you can find ways to compromise or reward yourself, perhaps making these things a little more tolerable and even renew your enthusiasm!
You can hide so much behind a smile, pain, anxiety, depression. It’s so much easier when someone asks, ‘How are you?’ to say, ‘fine thanks, how are you?’ and flash your winning smile; because in reality, who really wants to hear about your list of woes? Besides, they’d have a shock if you reeled off what was really going through your head, right?
But what if they really did care? What if they are asking you how you are, because they really do want to know, how you actually are? I’m not saying you should open up to your local supermarket clerk, but there are those who would rather know the truth, than see your best selfie smile. It’s ok not to be ok and for your friends and family to know it too, you don’t always have to hide behind your smile.