What’s the best that could happen?

How often do we think about how things might go wrong? How often do we play the images over and over in our minds of everything unravelling, falling apart and not going to plan. We sit and over think about what’s the worst that could happen, negatively escalate the situation without fact or reason, and then we can’t understand why everything went wrong!

What do you think might happen if you thought about what could go right? If instead, you rehearsed everything in your mind going well, how successful you could be. Do you think the outcome might be different?

Why not give it a try, what’s the best that can happen?! Or comment below, I’d love to hear your thoughts!

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Treat yourself!

Sitting down to try and put together a website within the enigma that is cyber space, whilst looking longingly out of the window at the beautiful Autumn day that was happening outside, I found that I couldn’t bare it any longer and I dragged our newly purchased Costco bistro set out of the garage and set it up directly in front of the sun, even if the only place I had to put was the driveway! I might have endured questionable looks from the neighbours, but I was so grateful for some fresh air and the warmth of the sun on my face that I felt much more enthusiastic about battling with cyber space!

This got me wondering, how often do we make compromises to ourselves to make tasks a little more bearable, to help feed our enthusiasm or are we more likely to tell ourselves that we shouldn’t do something, we mustn’t, we can’t, we should carry on regardless as to how we feel, as that what ‘ought to be done’. Well what if it wasn’t, I mean, there is no rule book, there is no spoon! Why can’t you compromise with yourself, or give yourself a treat or reward? In fact, why wouldn’t you? You would treat a child, a pet or a partner, why wouldn’t you reward yourself? You can’t always change the tasks that need to be done or avoid battles you might have to face but you can find ways to compromise or reward yourself, perhaps making these things a little more tolerable and even renew your enthusiasm!

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Behind a smile

You can hide so much behind a smile, pain, anxiety, depression. It’s so much easier when someone asks, ‘How are you?’ to say, ‘fine thanks, how are you?’ and flash your winning smile; because in reality, who really wants to hear about your list of woes? Besides, they’d have a shock if you reeled off what was really going through your head, right?

But what if they really did care? What if they are asking you how you are, because they really do want to know, how you actually are? I’m not saying you should open up to your local supermarket clerk, but there are those who would rather know the truth, than see your best selfie smile. It’s ok not to be ok and for your friends and family to know it too, you don’t always have to hide behind your smile.

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Bravery

Over the last few months I have been told a number of times that I am very brave. I won’t go into the details as to why, but it got me thinking, what does ‘being brave’ actually mean and do we ever appreciate what being brave might mean to someone else?

A person’s level of endurance for pain or danger are relevant only to themselves. By this, I mean stroking a small puppy for one person could be equal to another person’s interaction with a great white shark, but how often do we take this into consideration in our day to day life, how often do you think about how brave a person might be having to be that day?

There are some people who might be facing painful medical conditions, dealing with loss, pain, facing dangers in their life that you’d never imagine, just because a person doesn’t tell you about it, or you can’t see it, doesn’t mean it isn’t there.

How often do you take a thought like that into consideration when you are interacting with another person?

I suppose what I am reflecting on, is should we be more considerate of others, knowing that everyone is fighting their own invisible battles and being brave to face their own demons each day, no matter how big or small they may seem to us.

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